The Gentleman's Guide To Being Single In New York City

A Man and His Wardrobe

There is nothing wrong with a polo shirt and jeans. Of course, what context are we talking about? Because if there’s warm weather and you’re playing ultimate frisbeee, then play on. If you’re actually making public appearances at bars and semi-formal office parties in the same get-up, then I can see why most women roll their eyes at you. Look, you’re not living in the suburbs anymore, nor are you 21, so any guy living in New York longer than six months has a better fashion sense about himself. Even, us outer borough folks. A bachelor has style models: people he looks to as examples of what works and what doesn’t. That is the only reason I could think of where celebrity worship is appropriate. But remember: style, not trend. Acid wash has made a weird comeback and it will be gone in another six months. Go for simple, straight-forward, and classic; not flashy and loud.

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A Man and His Women

A real bachelor in New York City does not get tied down. That’s not to say he’s anti-monogamy. But, with so many options, who would want to be? He should never confuse companionship for a relationship. One only asks that he and a “friend” go out, have a good time, and see where the night leads. Another asks that he only choose one person to commit to something bigger than himself. Once again, a relationship is not evil. In fact, the only way we grow as people is to go through one.  But that also means once you taste the forbidden fruit, it will eventually just become fruit if you keep sampling. There’s nothing wrong with more than one woman in a man’s life. And, there is definitely nothing wrong with playing the field.  However, there is something to be said for honesty and respect upfront. If she asks if you are seeing other people, only a real idiot would say “No.” 

A Man and His Look

Here’s the ugly truth about getting older: your body changes. It’s scary, it’s unwelcome, but it happens to all of us. Any man can choose to live his life as he wants. But there’s something a little questionable about spending money to major alter oneself versus figuring out ways of adaptation. I’m talking about hair plugs or steroids. But what’s even worse is choosing to let your body completely change and doing nothing about it. I’m not saying we all should all be hitting the gym like a maniac, but do consider that your once God-like metabolism is slowing down. I’m only saying this because I people in who’ve gone through a lot of trouble to get their present body image. Confidence. That’s what people want to see in you. Nobody cares about a bald head or a face lift. Because without confidence and taking care of yourself, you still look like a sad schmuck.

A few signs that you may need to backtrack...

1) You Constantly Think About Impressing People

2) You Scour Facebook, Trying to Figure Out Whatever Happened To Your High School Girlfriend

3) You Find Nothing Weird About the Fact That Everything In Your Closet Is From 1999

4) "Yes, I Need This Deluxe Copy Of 'The Game'."

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